I am a huge fan of Life.
I love living it. Almost seven
years ago I made the decision to begin living with purpose as opposed to just “living”/existing. I remember early on in 2013 when I discovered
Dr. Wayne Dyer something that he did daily that really struck a chord with
me. The very first thing he did was to
say Thank You three times as soon as his feet touched the floor as he was
getting out of bed. Starting the day off
with gratitude. That was something I
decided to add to the beginning of my laundry list of morning affirmations and
Thanksgiving comes once a year and is an amazing time to
connect with family and loved ones but Giving Thanks daily is something that
should not be overlooked. For me, it is
incredibly important to express my gratitude, my thanks for this amazing
abundant life I am living in. Sometimes
while walking around the house I pause and then it hits me. This wave of gratitude. It hitches my breath. It’s like an incredible dream that I am fully
immersed in. Yesterday morning, after my
run, I was walking around outside the house in cooldown and got to the
backyard. Looked towards the sunrise and
I lost my breath once again. I am not a
very good photographer, but I could not help but capture that moment of pure
I am so grateful for this community of WordPress in which
we can connect. Thank you for taking the
time to stop by and thank you so much for the messages in which you spread as well. I wish you all a very Happy
Thanksgiving! May you and yours be
filled with joy and harmony during this special time. Let’s continue to positively raise the
frequency of our world and Shine our Light.
Hi there! I felt the
need to highlight something that I glossed over / overlooked when I was writing
my ReNewal (3) blog post. I was on my
run this morning and doing as I do, I either reflect on the past, look forward
to the future, and also enjoy the moment I am in (particularly breathing, Love
It). So, I was reflecting on my 2013 “Awakening”
/ Shifting year and feeling the gratitude that encompasses it all. But I remembered a Crucial Key that I just
breezed right over in that aforementioned blog post. There was something else in the background at
that time and dawned on me this morning.
I wrote how I was comfortable with the idea of giving up the “dream job”
being a general’s aide in order to assist my incoming boss who was panicking
that I was leaving, and he would be left to fend alone. There WAS something else. My Soul Sister was deployed to Afghanistan
beginning the summer of 2012. It was
strange being on the other end of sending letters and care packages as opposed
to receiving them whilst downrange. She
was always in the forefront of my mind in wishing her well, praying for her
safe return. She was coming back at the
end of July 2013 and was going to be on leave for quite a while. She had this amazing week planned where we
would meet up in Las Vegas and really paint the town. There was one small problem with this plan
though. When I got the job as the
general’s aide, I would NOT be going on the dream vacation / reunion with my
sister. I would be at a general’s beck
and call. I knew she would be incredibly
disappointed and so would have I, even double so as I am on the more empathic
side picking up her disappointment on top of my own. Law of Attraction-wise…I know that deep deep
down I would have wanted to see her again after being separated for more than a
year rather than getting that dream job that I knew was mine. In the blog, ReNewal (3), I got the word that
I didn’t get the position, felt the relief wash over me and an eagerness to Get
to Work for my new boss………and put in my leave papers to go to Las Vegas to be
with my sister. On the run this morning,
I realized what my Heart truly wanted to do.
Be together again with my best friend and see her with my own eyes
knowing that she was back home. Safe and
sound. She truly was the Crucial Key to
get me to my REAL dream job in San Antonio later that year. Amazing!
Who wins in a battle?
A battle against yourself? Well,
hopefully yourSelf wins as opposed to yourself.
On my morning run this morning I was reflecting on the past which I do
not normally do. You know how thoughts
are, sometimes coming out of no where like objects floating through outer
space. I was reflecting on the darker
side of the Law of Attraction and my own personal battle. I’ll keep to the wavetops and make as light
as possible because there are moments during this dark year that I had which are
extremely personal, extremely dark and have only shared it with my two closest
friends / soul sisters. However, to the
I went to Afghanistan and came home to find my wife of
10yrs had left me for someone else. I didn’t
even know there was another person until four months after I got home. I just know those four months were bleak. All the while during this time my mother is
back home in Ohio fighting stage IV colorectal cancer. My wife finally told me she wanted a
divorce. Shocked. I was in shock. The type of personality I am and the way I
opened myself up to two becoming One reallllllllllly devasted me. I was feeling despair. A few months later my mom passed away. Single mom who did the best she could raising
a little boy on her own (with grandma 😊)
moved on to the next stage of life. I
was literally all alone. The impending
divorce created what felt like a rift in my soul. A despair so deep that most of the time even
breathing was a struggle. My mom’s
passing was absolutely terrible. I
became virtually nothing but a being who was dwelling in their own misery.
Not long after my mom passed away, I found out that our unit was going to deploy again in the fall but to Iraq, a new place. It was early spring at the time and when I found out I knew I had to get out. I wasn’t fit. My three-year obligation after commissioning was coming up in June. I started the paperwork and got out, but…I lingered. My wife was still in the area as a schoolteacher. I just couldn’t find a way to leave. The despair had me swirling around a circle in Fayetteville, NC.
Here it was in action. The Law of Attraction in the worst way that whole year. Always expecting something worse to happen and the worst happens…over and over again. Attracting more darker energy…
I became a homeless person.
I had a car and a little bit of savings.
I lived out of my car. Gas
stations and baby wipes became a way of life for hygiene. I had a decent plan on sleeping in a safe
place every night. The apartment complex
I lived in before I got out was a gated community and we had a sticker in the
windshield…a sticker that was never removed.
This particular apartment complex had two others in the area that used
the exact stickers. I rotated between
the three locations each night for almost four months.
I couldn’t leave, I just couldn’t. Mentally I was stuck in a loop. Despair.
Hope. Maybe she’ll come back to
me. Maybe maybe maybe.
For some reason it seemed to make sense to go to bookstores
and the library to hangout. Read. Catch cat naps. After a couple months it started to dawn on
me some of the same people I was seeing at the same locations. Homeless vets. Backpacks.
It was so bizarre and yet made some kind of weird sense. I was beginning to follow the migratory
patterns of a homeless vet near Fort Bragg.
I knew that eventually I would have to lose the car, grab a pack and
TAP TAP TAP. I was
woken up at 6am in one of the apartment complex parking lots. A female police officer was waking me up with
her flashlight on my window. “Sir,
someone has noticed that you have been sleeping in your car an awful lot around
here…” I made up some kind of excuse
about how my wife and I were having problems…not too far from the truth. “Well you can’t sleep in your car, sir…”
Finally. A catalyst
to snap me out of it. A break in the vicious
mental loop. Just enough to hear the
Voice, “Go Home”. It was just enough
time for that Voice to create an interruption and my resolve to end this came
pouring out. This was a true test of my
resiliency and whether or not I would actually Listen to the guidance being
given to me. I really wanted to give in
to the despair. To abandon my car and
just become…Nothing. A shadow. That resiliency in my Soul brought me back. To Fight for my Life. To Live.
I had never heard of the Myers-Briggs personality test
until I went to my “majors” school (CGSC) at Fort Leavenworth in the summer of
2015. Apparently, they like to get a
little psychological snapshot assessment of the students before the school year
starts. It turned out that I was the
only INFJ in my small group (15 of us per classroom). Not the only introvert to be sure but it
interested me to dive a little deeper into what this extra label I took on meant
Famous INFJ’s include Oprah, Nelson Mandela and……Adam Sandler? Interesting. Allegedly this particular group I fell into is a very small percentage of the world, 1-2%. Wow. Made sense why I felt so utterly different than the majority, however, it was only two short years before this test that I found I was on more the empathic side. Funny how INFJ’s have been called, The Mystic, The Counselor, and………Empath. So, I was like, Ohhhhhh ok, my labels have all kind of merged together in the same group, INFJ.
There was something else about this INFJ/Empath that helped
me get through all my school years, Marines, Army, virtually everything. The Chameleon. I suppose it’s kind of like a natural defense
mechanism where I was always able to blend in so well. Except for the past few years. I dropped the defense and just allowed Me to
come through. When I had my Shift in consciousness,
I was able to finally stand in my own strength of Who I Am without fear of repercussion
of trying to “fit in” anymore.
It was humorous though when someone in our small group at CGSC found something about the Star Wars character equivalence to the 16 Myers-Briggs personality traits. Good ole Obi-Wan Kenobi, The Counselor. Wait, not just Obi-Wan! From Star Wars: A New Hope, we first meet him as Ben Kenobi. Hey! I’m Ben too! Perfect.
Have a wonderful day, my friends, and if you are an INFJ reading this and are having problems in life then please feel free to drop me a line! Wait a minute, it doesn’t matter if you are an INFJ or not. ANYone having any problems dealing with anything and would like some outside, neutral guidance, then please feel free to drop a line 🙂
I decided to pull a card today from the Butterfly Oracle
Cards for Life Changes by Doreen Virtue.
I wanted to write something at least once a week and the Wednesday mid-week
scene seemed the best time. I just was a
bit unsure though. I have a lot to talk
about but some of these things just do not feel right, right now. Hence the card pulling and see what I Feel
from that. Body Changes. Well that’s interesting. Definitely a lot has transpired there in the
last 25yrs or so. The funny/amazing
thing is that now that I am closing in on 50 in six months, I feel better than
I did at age 20. Seriously, it’s fascinating. I remember in my 20s I would develop
injuries/pain in my ankles and shins back in my Marine Corps days. In my 30s, I was having issues with my knees
on a regular basis. By late 30s/early
40s it was my lower back on top of all of that.
I was breaking down as the years wore on. But……….
By age 43 I changed what I ate (became a vegetarian) and developed my holistic mind/body/spirit regimen. Six years later, as I reflect on the time that has gone by…I feel Great. So much so that I signed up for my next marathon, albeit not until Jan 2020 (and will be approx. a week after I turn 50). The body mind spirit connection is so incredible and you hear these truly inspiring stories out there about older individuals completing the most monumental achievements. I think the one that sticks out the most is a 94yr old lady who was a two-time cancer survivor who became the oldest woman to complete a half-marathon (San Diego Rock-n-Roll 2017), BUT it wasn’t two years earlier that she became the oldest woman to complete a full marathon at 92. Amazing.
The human body is an incredible machine if you treat it
with the utmost respect that it deserves………it’s You.
Six years ago, and a few months into my Shift in Awareness, I became absorbed by the notion of infinity. I couldn’t shake it. I got infinity paintings and pictures, plus a very cool wooden sculpture. These things all led up to having the infinity symbol tattooed to my upper right shoulder. Christmas that year found me enjoying the holidays with my Soul Sisters and they ensured I had the perfect BenGi Santa hat to celebrate with. After I returned home, and was unpacking, Santa hat fell to the floor. I picked it up and the first thing I saw was my infinity sculpture. Really without thinking, I went over and placed the hat on the sculpture. Infinite Christmas, I thought. A constant reminder to enjoy and celebrate every single day. This Gift of Life we have on a continuous basis.
Over the next year, the sisters came to visit me every now
and then and remarked about how cool it was having Infinite Christmas around me
every day. It must have really struck an
elegant note with them as they had a very special pillow made for me. A Christmas present that following year. Little messages of what they thought made up Me. In the center of it, and in gold letters, Infinite Christmas. It is probably one of the Greatest Christmas
presents I ever received.
I guess my message is this:
Surround yourself with things that are a Reminder of this Gift of Life. It doesn’t have to be an Infinite
Christmas. Listen to your Heart. It will tell you how to honor your Life.
Because I live my life like a mirror, I reflect which I am most
enveloped by. I Choose to be surrounded
by beautiful and amazing things to include a Christmas without end.
A few months ago, I was guided to participate in a local
Meetup. This Meetup’s focus was on
gathering together to create a vision board.
Utilizing the Law of Attraction, the vision board we create will help
focus our intentions on becoming a reality.
For myself, this gathering was more of “getting out there” and trying
something new, plus meeting new like-minded (Law of Attraction) people. I really didn’t have anything in mind of what
I wanted to attract into my life aside from what I already have. But fortunately, I was able to find just the
right magazines to hone in on that. My Vision
can be summed up straight down the center of the board where: My Vision Starts
Here. Love Above All; Inside Joy (with a
mirror next to it to reflect my Joy and continuously have that Joy reflected
back to me); FAITH. After I had that I
was pretty much done…except it just looked so empty on the sides. The side worked which intended to be just “window
dressing” actually happened to fit in Just Right. Exactly what I needed.
It was slightly embarrassing towards the end when we went around the table to discuss what we came up with. Folks were looking to attract piles of money, romance, exotic vacations, beautiful homes etc, and then, me 😊. It wasn’t really embarrassing for me, but I could Feel some uncomfortable energy coming from others. I could Feel a little embarrassment of their (in their mind) selfish “wantings”. After feeling that unexpected energy, I felt a need to elaborate a little more. The feeling of internal Personal Happiness will by default, naturally Attract the things you want most out of life. I felt a little better after that. Lighter. The mood got less dense and hopefully I just created some Inspiration on another’s Journey.