I Am an INFJ

I had never heard of the Myers-Briggs personality test until I went to my “majors” school (CGSC) at Fort Leavenworth in the summer of 2015.  Apparently, they like to get a little psychological snapshot assessment of the students before the school year starts.  It turned out that I was the only INFJ in my small group (15 of us per classroom).  Not the only introvert to be sure but it interested me to dive a little deeper into what this extra label I took on meant to me.

Famous INFJ’s include Oprah, Nelson Mandela and……Adam Sandler?  Interesting.  Allegedly this particular group I fell into is a very small percentage of the world, 1-2%.  Wow.  Made sense why I felt so utterly different than the majority, however, it was only two short years before this test that I found I was on more the empathic side.  Funny how INFJ’s have been called, The Mystic, The Counselor, and………Empath.  So, I was like, Ohhhhhh ok, my labels have all kind of merged together in the same group, INFJ.

There was something else about this INFJ/Empath that helped me get through all my school years, Marines, Army, virtually everything.  The Chameleon.  I suppose it’s kind of like a natural defense mechanism where I was always able to blend in so well.  Except for the past few years.  I dropped the defense and just allowed Me to come through.  When I had my Shift in consciousness, I was able to finally stand in my own strength of Who I Am without fear of repercussion of trying to “fit in” anymore.

It was humorous though when someone in our small group at CGSC found something about the Star Wars character equivalence to the 16 Myers-Briggs personality traits.  Good ole Obi-Wan Kenobi, The Counselor.  Wait, not just Obi-Wan! From Star Wars: A New Hope, we first meet him as Ben Kenobi.  Hey!  I’m Ben too!  Perfect.

Have a wonderful day, my friends, and if you are an INFJ reading this and are having problems in life then please feel free to drop me a line! Wait a minute, it doesn’t matter if you are an INFJ or not. ANYone having any problems dealing with anything and would like some outside, neutral guidance, then please feel free to drop a line 🙂

Body Changes

I decided to pull a card today from the Butterfly Oracle Cards for Life Changes by Doreen Virtue.  I wanted to write something at least once a week and the Wednesday mid-week scene seemed the best time.  I just was a bit unsure though.  I have a lot to talk about but some of these things just do not feel right, right now.  Hence the card pulling and see what I Feel from that.  Body Changes.  Well that’s interesting.  Definitely a lot has transpired there in the last 25yrs or so.  The funny/amazing thing is that now that I am closing in on 50 in six months, I feel better than I did at age 20.  Seriously, it’s fascinating.  I remember in my 20s I would develop injuries/pain in my ankles and shins back in my Marine Corps days.  In my 30s, I was having issues with my knees on a regular basis.  By late 30s/early 40s it was my lower back on top of all of that.  I was breaking down as the years wore on.  But……….

By age 43 I changed what I ate (became a vegetarian) and developed my holistic mind/body/spirit regimen.  Six years later, as I reflect on the time that has gone by…I feel Great.  So much so that I signed up for my next marathon, albeit not until Jan 2020 (and will be approx. a week after I turn 50).  The body mind spirit connection is so incredible and you hear these truly inspiring stories out there about older individuals completing the most monumental achievements.  I think the one that sticks out the most is a 94yr old lady who was a two-time cancer survivor who became the oldest woman to complete a half-marathon (San Diego Rock-n-Roll 2017), BUT it wasn’t two years earlier that she became the oldest woman to complete a full marathon at 92.  Amazing.

The human body is an incredible machine if you treat it with the utmost respect that it deserves………it’s You.

Have a wonderful week, my friends!

Retirement Reverie

Last week, my sister inquired about what I had been writing about lately and I was like, what a coincidence you should ask, I wrote about my Infinite Christmas.  She thought that was cool but suggested I write about what it’s been like retired for the past year.  Yes.  Great idea.  Thank you.

You must understand; I started my military journey in 1992 on Parris Island.  This is my THIRD time getting out and fortunately my last.  My ex-wife convinced me to leave the Marines in 1998 and go to college, get a degree etc.  I compromised with the caveat of potentially coming back into service as an officer.  It was really hard though.  I LOVED being a Marine.  I loved my job as a combat marksmanship instructor for Marine Corps Security Forces in Chesapeake, VA.  LOVED shooting competitions in the Marines.  That was all gone before I knew it and I was a college student with a bunch of “punk kids” with no discipline in their bodies.  I was depressed for over a year.  I hated being a civilian.  Eventually time has a way of marching you through and my ex-wife, over the course of the next three years, convinced me that maybe I should consider joining the Army as an officer…which literally took three years to finally sit well enough with me.  I did it.

I received a BA in History and applied for Army Officer Candidate School (OCS).  Got it.  Commissioned as a 2nd lieutenant in the summer of 2002.  By spring of 2003 I was at Fort Bragg and by that November I found myself in Afghanistan.  During my time there, my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 colorectal cancer.  It had already spread to her liver etc.  Unbeknownst to me, my ex-wife at the same time began living a double life with a man she met while teaching (he was a teacher as well).  It wasn’t until I came home from Afghanistan did I realize how bad things were.  Mom is dying, and wife leaving me.  I wasn’t doing to well but somehow managed to keep it together.  At least until spring of 2005 when my mom died.  I made the promotion list for captain as well around the same time.  Also, around the same time our unit found out it was going to deploy again but to Iraq this time.  Something else was coming up in the summer of 2005…my three year “obligated” service time as an OCS commissioned officer.  I couldn’t do this.  I was a train wreck.  I put in my paperwork to get out.  I did not want to.  No way.  That wasn’t the plan when I first enlisted in 1992.  I was going to serve my time and retire with honor.  I got out and was living out of my car as a homeless person for three months (that’s a heck of a story).  I did find my way back home to Ohio and in less than a year I was feeling pretty damn good.  I wanted back in.

I applied to get my commission back in September 2006 and by the beginning of August 2007…I was back to finish what I started.  I enjoyed the rest of those 10 years until I retired.  I really was going to serve longer but Trump helped make up my mind on that decision while he was sending childish tweets to a psychopath less than 200 miles away from where I was stationed in South Korea.  However, the thing is…I didn’t mind!  I was HAPPY to get out.  The process was smooth and enjoyable.  I had so many people help mentor me throughout my last year.  It was Great.  One year ago last month I was Free of my obligation.  Not just to the Nation but to mySelf.  I made a declaration in 1992 and I was going to complete what I started.  And this past year?  It really flew by!  I had some amazing adventures in Colorado, Arizona, and of course in Texas where I retired to, BUT the best part of all is that I finally felt satisfied.  I am Living my Best Life and will continue to.  My Life My Terms.

Peace, My Friends!

Infinite Christmas

Six years ago, and a few months into my Shift in Awareness, I became absorbed by the notion of infinity.  I couldn’t shake it.  I got infinity paintings and pictures, plus a very cool wooden sculpture.  These things all led up to having the infinity symbol tattooed to my upper right shoulder.  Christmas that year found me enjoying the holidays with my Soul Sisters and they ensured I had the perfect BenGi Santa hat to celebrate with.  After I returned home, and was unpacking, Santa hat fell to the floor.  I picked it up and the first thing I saw was my infinity sculpture.  Really without thinking, I went over and placed the hat on the sculpture.  Infinite Christmas, I thought.  A constant reminder to enjoy and celebrate every single day.  This Gift of Life we have on a continuous basis.

Over the next year, the sisters came to visit me every now and then and remarked about how cool it was having Infinite Christmas around me every day.  It must have really struck an elegant note with them as they had a very special pillow made for me.  A Christmas present that following year.  Little messages of what they thought made up Me.  In the center of it, and in gold letters, Infinite Christmas.  It is probably one of the Greatest Christmas presents I ever received.

I guess my message is this:  Surround yourself with things that are a Reminder of this Gift of Life.  It doesn’t have to be an Infinite Christmas.  Listen to your Heart.  It will tell you how to honor your Life.

Because I live my life like a mirror, I reflect which I am most enveloped by.  I Choose to be surrounded by beautiful and amazing things to include a Christmas without end. 

Celebrate Life Eternally, My Friends 😊

Vision

A few months ago, I was guided to participate in a local Meetup.  This Meetup’s focus was on gathering together to create a vision board.  Utilizing the Law of Attraction, the vision board we create will help focus our intentions on becoming a reality.  For myself, this gathering was more of “getting out there” and trying something new, plus meeting new like-minded (Law of Attraction) people.  I really didn’t have anything in mind of what I wanted to attract into my life aside from what I already have.  But fortunately, I was able to find just the right magazines to hone in on that.  My Vision can be summed up straight down the center of the board where: My Vision Starts Here.  Love Above All; Inside Joy (with a mirror next to it to reflect my Joy and continuously have that Joy reflected back to me); FAITH.  After I had that I was pretty much done…except it just looked so empty on the sides.  The side worked which intended to be just “window dressing” actually happened to fit in Just Right.  Exactly what I needed.

It was slightly embarrassing towards the end when we went around the table to discuss what we came up with.  Folks were looking to attract piles of money, romance, exotic vacations, beautiful homes etc, and then, me 😊.  It wasn’t really embarrassing for me, but I could Feel some uncomfortable energy coming from others.  I could Feel a little embarrassment of their (in their mind) selfish “wantings”.  After feeling that unexpected energy, I felt a need to elaborate a little more.  The feeling of internal Personal Happiness will by default, naturally Attract the things you want most out of life.  I felt a little better after that.  Lighter.  The mood got less dense and hopefully I just created some Inspiration on another’s Journey.

Peace and Blessings!

Citizen of the Universe

“What now?”, I’m thinking.  What now.  I accomplished my year long once a month blog from 2014-2015 on notions I was having post-Shift.  Time went by until I retired almost a year ago this month.  Technically it was 1 Aug 18, but if you have leave days accrued you can use them leading up to your actual retirement date.  I had about 36 days I believe…  I knew I was going to finally write about what led me into the Shift, which I accomplished in ReNewal.  Moved onto my Canyon Lake Retreat and private words written in a journal from 2014.  Done.  Something popped into my mind about the UFO phenomena which brought us to Unidentified.  Moments have passed by until this moment in contemplation.  I believe that most individuals have at least some general theme on WordPress, right?  I mean for the most part.  You write about what you love and something that you can identify with.  Who you are.  Who am I.

That is always such a brilliant question.  I never have liked being put in a box and labeled though.  I am a Marine (established the significant amount of discipline I bring).  I am a Soldier (defined me for the last 10yrs until retirement).  I am a Runner (since my first marathon in 1993, Marine Corps Marathon in DC, to my next one in McAllen, TX this Jan 2020).  I am an INFJ (never heard of the Myers-Briggs test until my senior military training as a major and found myself as “this” personality trait).  I am an Empath (“wow” and “of course”, it all made sense after coming to the realization in 2013).  I am a Roller Skater (since I was 7yrs old and still jammin’ on).  I guess one of the overarching ones is, I am a Mind-Body-Spirit Enthusiast (a phrase I started using a couple years ago when I had to write an “introduction” card about myself for a boss that was introducing me to the section I began working at…list your hobbies, which I summed up into MBS E)…

I am, we are, so many things.  Figuring out who I am is not really of any benefit to you, and especially not to me as I know who I am.  I would like to create some Value Added and utilize the prefix in benefit, ben, root meaning, good.  It helps that my name actually is Ben I suppose.  How can my words be Good for you?  I don’t know, like maybe verbal vitamins of a sort.  My (Soul) sisters think I should start a YouTube channel and be like a Tony Robbins motivational type speaker.  To that I say I am not quite Feeling it.  I mean I can sum up a lot of what I would have to say in, “the answers you are looking for are already inside you…”  Then again, most people are very focused on the external.  I can help to light a path on a new direction I suppose, but right now, a YouTube channel is not the way to go for me. 

Think, Ben, think.  Better yet, Feel.  I tend to do a lot better when writing from the Heart as opposed to the head.  So, I want to bring out something that connects us all right here and now…our humanity.  I love being a human, and I love living on this gorgeous lifeform we call Earth.  Countries divide each other as do ethnicities etc.  So much division and so much hate.  Racism.  I was Blessed to have two wonderful Souls raise me, mom and grandma, and never knew of bigotry.  I was aware of it and more so as the years went on but that was something that I just couldn’t understand.  My understanding of it now is that a great number are still asleep while thinking they are awake.  A big difference between being awake and Awake.

This WordPress site was created as I continue to Live in the Light, and so that must be the “theme” to be expressed. As I Live in the Light, I Shine my Light out toward You…

I was reading an article not too long ago that flowed back into my mind this morning.  Human beings are virtually 99.9% identical when it comes to our DNA.  The idea of ethnic cleansing from one race over another race is extremely sad.  Especially when we are the same.  The very thing that divides so many on our planet is the ONE thing that should be Uniting us.  We Are Human Beings.  The importance of being good and kind to others is so fundamental.  If we want to elevate the energy on this planet to a Loving state then we must elevate those around us, and they elevate those around them, and so on and so on…

A Star Trek future is within our grasp.  A United Planet, united with other planets.  Too cool.  Yet…we CAN reach out to this potential future through our Will and Desire.  Who am I?  I am a child of the cosmos.  I am a Citizen of the Universe.

Please join me and Always look on the Bright Side  😊

Unidentified

Hi!  Now that I have completed my previous journey in Canyon Lake, Texas (back in 2014), I thought I would venture back to the present, or rather be IN the present and write about the past.  Thank you so much for those that read and liked some of my “chapters” from that stream of consciousness while on retreat.  I can say that a lot can change in five years since I wrote that down.  My connection to God is, well, it’s awesome.  Many other things.  In this moment though, I can’t help but recalling events from my life that transpired many years ago.  Probably one of my least spoken about topics my whole life.  I remember even as a kid and then later as a little older teenager that it just kind of seemed taboo to talk about.  Like…who would believe you, right?

1981, I was 11 years old.  My best friend Jim, and I were playing outside, in Warren, Ohio, when one of us caught sight of something in the sky (can’t remember if it was him or me or both at the same time).  A silver disc shaped object shimmering up in the sky just sitting there and then *poof* it was gone in a flash.  We were blown away.  I mean the excitement was incredible, we know what we saw!  We ran to Jim’s house, burst into the kitchen, yelling frantically to his mom.  I do recall she took us seriously to the point where she called the Youngstown Air Base to see if she could get any information.  Nothing.  No reports in the local news.  Nada.  I remember the steam eventually leaving us and was just “one of those things” left in the past…….four years later…(the featured image looks pretty darn close to what we saw)

August 1985, the Perseid annual meteor shower.  15 years old now and brave enough to make ventures out my window on the second floor, shimmy up a narrow vertical incline to a fairly flat rooftop of my house.  For some reason Jim and I had decided to get front row seats to the meteor shower up on my roof.  It was very exciting to the point that we decided to make log entries into a notebook.  Time, direction (east to west, north to south), and type.  There were two distinctive types.  Falling stars and shooting stars.  We were up there for hours staring at the heavens just waiting for the next one, but then we discovered something else.  Anomalous objects.  So, this is 1985, not a whole lot up in our orbit like nowadays, but nevertheless there were satellites to be sure.  I remember we were very sure actually that what we were seeing were satellites, however, I believe it wasn’t long before we changed our point of view.  So, for example it would look like this bright (or barely glowing) tiny orb just making its way across the sky.  Then finally something happened.  One of the objects we were watching for a minute or so make its way a considerable distance across the sky…stopped.  I remember saying to Jim, “Did it stop?”, and he was like, “I think I still see it just sitting there.”  Which I was as well until it started moving again…in the direction it was originally coming from.  That is how it was for a few days.  We would not only track shooting and falling stars, but these other unknowns that would make random stops and course corrections.  Satellites do not do that!  We just kept that whole time to ourselves and I want to say that notebook pretty much made its way into some garbage heap after I left for the Marines in 1992.

The thing is though…I cannot remember the exact time I / We stopped going up there.  I have a memory of a dream from back then and all I recall is that it was a dream, but I want to say after 2013 it felt like it could be more.  I was on my roof staring out to the nighttime horizon with a massive cigar shaped object out there just sitting.  I was by myself, no Jim.  That’s it though.  Just standing and staring.  I don’t remember waking up from a dream.  I don’t know.  

The closest I came to seeing anything else semi-mind-blowing was sometime in 2015, San Antonio, Texas.  I was coming home from the store and looked up in the sky to my left, driver’s side, and saw some really bizarre looking chemtrail type clouds, drove a little more to the stop sign ahead and stopped, got a better look, and WTF???  Some sort of amorphous pinkish/bluish glowing object  (kind of like a diamond).  Instead of jumping out of my car and get pics and video (like I should have in the modern age!), I was like, jump in the car, make a right, another quick right and I am home in my apartment parking lot…within a minute!  It was Gone.  I was not too happy with myself at the moment, but then just let it go.  Oh well,  “One of those things.”

In this present moment, I must keep an open mind about the Life that is out there in the Universe.  I just can’t help but be amazed.  Look at just our beautiful blue and green gem we live on.  There are almost NINE MILLION individual types of lifeforms just on our planet alone.  Plants, insects…you get the idea.  That is a staggering number of lifeforms on just one tiny little blue ball floating in the vastness of space.  How could other lifeforms not exist…it takes my breath away in awe.